What Happens If You Stay With Your Partner Even If He Doesn’t Love You?

There is nothing more painful than unrequited love. When someone rejects you because they do not like you, it is easier to forget and continue your life. But when your partner doesn’t love you, then life can be hell.

Why do we continue in relationships where we don’t feel loved and cared for?

• Sometimes we deceive ourselves and do not listen to each other. We know what happens but it is very difficult for us to say out loud: “He doesn’t love you, get out of there.”
• We hold on to their promises. It may be that the couple does not have the courage to tell us that they do not love us, and they may even try to trick us into believing that they do love us. However, he does not show us or take care of us, so it is not that difficult to see that his words have nothing to do with his real feelings. And still, we hold on to his words and his promises.
• We believe that we are strong and that we can withstand so much pain. However, suffering is not free: it has a very high cost for our mental and emotional health. When we want to realize it, our soul is shattered and we have to pick up the little bits to rebuild our hearts and minds. You have to do therapy and sometimes it takes us many years to heal those wounds.

It is important not to endure or suffer, or expose ourselves to pain for free.

• For an ego issue. We believe that our partner at some magical moment will realize how special we are and will fall in love with us.

There is no reward for suffering for love

If your partner or partner is not in love with you, he is not going to fall in love. As much as you love them and as much as you give yourself. It is hard to assume, but the sooner we accept that there is no prize, the better. Simply because, if you don’t, unpleasant things can start to happen for you:

• Your self-esteem drops to dire levels. The lower your self-esteem, the more you tend to think that you don’t deserve love and the more you cling to the person who doesn’t love you.
• You do not ask yourself why he is with you if he does not love you, or why you are with that person if he does not love you. Generally what you do is paralyze yourself for fear that he will tire of you or go with another person. Instead of making the decision yourself, you prefer to “enjoy” the time your partner has left to leave your side.
• You learn to live with that fear and generally fall into submission so as not to provoke the fatal outcome. You become more accommodating, you avoid conflict, you are more helpful, you take care of yourself and at some point you fantasize about making yourself essential so that the other person believes that they need you.
• You can lose your dignity. In addition to becoming a submissive and complacent person, it is also possible to be more willing to lose your dignity, to allow yourself to be lied to, cheated on and treated badly. And this is dangerous because the more masochistic we become, the more sadistic others become. That is, the more submissive we show ourselves, the more likely we are to be treated worse.

Take the final step

There are many ways to try to stop your partner from breaking up even if they are wanting to get out of it, but none of them work: if someone doesn’t love you, it doesn’t matter what you do to make them fall in love. That is why it is so important not only to work on self-esteem, but also on ego, and to take into account that there is no one essential, that relationships in which only one turns and gives the best of oneself never work.

All relationships have to be based on freedom and not on necessity. It is not fair for someone to take advantage of someone else’s need to be loved. Nor is it fair to try to make the other person believe that without her they will not be happy and that they need them to be well.

A person who does not love you does not take care of you either. And lack of care is abuse, indifference is abuse. That is why it is so important that you take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself means giving up relationships in which we are not loved and not cared for. Taking care of yourself means only staying in relationships in which there is reciprocity, sincerity and love by the hand: let’s take care of ourselves!