The Obsession With Thinness: How To Counteract It?
Where did it come from? If what we learned was distance and coldness, we will treat our own body as an object that we place in the hands of others
Human beings are mammals, that is, we are born through our mother’s body and, once we are born, the sensations of comfort, pleasure or displeasure will leave indelible marks on our body.
But what happens if those early childhood experiences don’t meet our needs for care or protection? What if our little body is not touched or hugged with love?
A big problem appears: The pain is so great that we are not willing to accept the emotional uprooting, so we distance ourselves from that experience.
One way to establish that emotional distance is to consider that this body does not belong to us. Because if it were ours, it would hurt. If it is foreign, no.
Lose weight until we are invisible
The problem is that many women should adapt to the fashion of thinness because it coincides with a personal need not to exist, not to belong, not to root, not to materialize.
If others like extreme thinness, if we believe that we are going to be more loved, taken into account or admired, if we prefer to leave the body at the service of the other; It is because this has been the everyday experience from the cradle.
The desire to be loved
Even if we adhere to strict diets, do physical exercise, or obsess over the calories we eat, we will still feel that we are not deserving of love.
We long to be loved by whom? For our mother, for what we place outside of ourselves. It is too high a price to pay that leaves us even more empty, estranged and alone than before.
We feel small and defenseless as it did when we were children.
Learn to love each other
What can we do then?
- First, let’s try to review our history and find out how many caresses, touch, arms, and emotional closeness we have received during our childhood from our mother.
- Then, let’s review the capacity we have to relate bodily to others: if we tolerate hugs and if we enjoy bodily pleasures.
To stop being an object and become a subject, we need to love ourselves. If we could not live this experience at the beginning of life, today we can learn to love ourselves and others. The body will then settle into perfect beauty and harmony.
We all distinguish someone beautiful because they are in impeccable harmony with their essential being.
And we all recognize a seemingly perfect body, without life or emotional support.
It is only about discovering the beauty of our inner being and allowing it to manifest in our body.
